Advice & Support: Part 1 // Attracting Attention

Posted by Beardo on Jul 6, 2010 in Blog | 0 comments

(Written for The Invitation Magazine)

Assalamu-alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu!

I am asking advice on behalf of my friend. She is currently taking night school and one of her classmate gives her unnecessary and unwanted attention, she is not comfartable with that. She has tried to ignore him and pretty much told him to shove off for lack of a better word but to no avail, he just doesnt give up…what should she do?

A. There are several methods in response to your situation. You (or your friend) can pick and choose to your convenience or to whichever works best for you as an individual. For starters, ignore him completely. If he’s looking at you, pretend you cannot see him. Take no heed of his words or glimpses. Secondly, forbid your friends or any of your associates to give your personal information (IM, phone number, etc) to him. If he walks towards you, keep moving, walk away, or go to the safe-zone: the restroom. He can’t possibly follow you there.
Remember that hiding will only aggravate the situation. He will think you are playing hard-to-get. As a dignified Muslim, it is your responsibility to preserve your modesty. At the same time, you don’t want to appear aggressive and rude. If you are going to be in the same class, you want to be on good terms with your usual surroundings.
And lastly, always make dua to Allah Ta’ala to preserve you from the evils we face as the youth of Islam. Remember your roots: Islam. As dignified members of Islam, we protect ourselves through supplication to Allah as well as our own personal efforts. Insha’Allah every step you take towards righteousness, you will be rewarded manifold.